That’s a good question to ask yourself—why aren’t your thoughts good ones? Well, because good ones are not as exciting as bad ones.
-The old tv adage “if it bleeds, it leads” is running the show in your brain.
-You got into the habit of choosing the bad thoughts over the good ones, so now it’s automatic.
-You are choosing the ones that make that little rush happen in your chest over the thoughts that make you calm and serene.
We do all this for several reasons:
-We like that little surge of adrenaline (though now it has taken over—I will get to that in a minute).
-We think we are “doing something” by worrying
-We surrounded ourselves with garbage and therefore that is all our minds have to work off of.
-We just got into the habit.
Let me talk for a minute about that little rush we feel from that adrenaline. Frankly just about everyone enjoys that rush. That is why people fight, mate, fall in love, jump out of airplanes. At some point, that little rush told you “Hey, you are alive and active and in control.”. By worrying, you felt as if you were “ready for action”.
However, now your brain has gotten into the habit of being constantly “ready for action” (that is why panic attacks are so prevalent). The thoughts you feed your brain will be the ones that dictate your mood. If you are expecting danger or harm, then that is what will flood your mind.
Example: Joe works at a fire department for one of the busiest engine companies in a large city. He knows that every time the alarm goes off, it is likely that someone is in terrible danger. Once the alarm goes off, his thoughts are only on the possible trauma he might find at the call. He rehearses his job in his mind on the way to the call.
Sam works at a classical music station. He is surrounded all day by beautiful classic tunes and his shift is easy. He knows exactly what to expect every day, as this station has been in business for years and everything is pretty much organized for smooth operation.
Now Joe is expecting danger and his mind is geared to danger when the call comes through. Sam does not expect anything out of the ordinary at work, so his mind is not geared for danger. Playing records is not necessarily known for being dangerous so his mind is peaceful and at rest.
You have trained yourself like Joe—to expect danger. However, unlike Joe, who leaves his danger thoughts at work, you take them around with you every minute of every day. You have allowed your brain to constantly sound the alarm—even when there is no fire.
Think about this carefully for a minute: Even when there is no fire, your brain sounds the alarm.
Imagine if there was a person who was constantly reporting fires that were not there—the fire department would be taxed, the fire fighters would be exhausted, the fire engines would wear out more quickly. That is what you are doing by constantly sounding false alarms in your brain. You are sounding the alarms by thinking of danger when you can’t see it. If you do not actually have police standing there in front of you saying “your son has been in an accident” then don’t think about it. If your boss has not told you that your job is in danger, then don’t assume it is. If you have washed your dishes, and the dog has not licked them or anything, then do not assume that they are dirty.
DON’T. DON’T. DON’T.